I know I talk about this a lot, but I am a very shy person. I always have been. I think I became quite shy around the time I was bullied as a kid. Despite being bullied, I still can find the motivation to communicate with others when it is necessary. Motivation is an individual component of intercultural communication competence, the desire to make a commitment in relationships, to learn about the self and others, and to remain flexible (Martin & Nakayama, pg. 480, 2018). It is important to be motivated.
For instance, we need to be committed to the people we talk to. Those relationships are important, and they deserve us to be there for them. I believe that if we are in a relationship, we need to be all in. We cannot be half in a relationship. People are not door mats, they do not deserve to walked all over. I can speak from experience from people wanting trying to come and go as they please in my life. I learned to not accept it.
Not only do we need to be motivated, we need to learn about ourselves and others. Learning about each other helps us to understand each other. Most importantly, I think it is important to understand ourselves. Understanding ourselves allows us to be better communicators. Self knowledge gives us just that. Self-knowledge is the quality of knowing how one is perceived as a communicator as well as one’s strengths and weaknesses (Martin & Nakayama, pg. 483, 2018).
I think understanding how we are being perceived helps to improve our communication. I think that everyone can stand to make improvements. No one is perfect, there are people who are in their late careers are constantly learning ways and techniques to improve. We have the ability to learn whether we have a good tone of voice, whether we are informative, do we ramble, the list can go on. I think knowledge is important.
There is something always to be learned when it comes to communication. We can learn more about the people we are speaking with. Knowledge is the quality of knowing about oneself, others, and various aspects of communication (Martin & Nakayama, pg. 483, 2018). I think knowing we are communicating with allows us to be more aware on how we communicate. We are able to leave prejudices and stereotypes out of the conversation while we communicate. These things are important this day in age. I know for one if I know I am going to be communicating with a certain group of people, I like to do my research so I know who I am talking to. I do not want to offend anyone, but learning up on their culture I can insure the conversation goes smoothly.
Martin, J. A., & Nakayama, T. K. (2018). Intercultural Communication in Contexts (7th ed.). New York, NY: McGraw-Hill.