One thing I do not think that people truly realize is how loud our expressions are. As a more animated communicator I for one am very expressive when it comes to my nonverbal communication. Relational messages are the message we communicate about how we feel about one another (Martin & Nakayama, 2018, p. 278). Not only are we communicating verbally, we communicate nonverbally. I have a lot of facial expressions. A lot of times the people I am communicating with think that I am mad because my nonverbal behavior shows me as angry when I don’t realize that I am.
When I communicate with someone I am close with, I use my nonverbal communication to express that. I may give them a hug. If I am talking directly with them, I may lean in closer towards them. This showing that I care about the other person. Some people I feel are withdrawn towards me. I find that sometimes people have a tendency to create more distance between me and look away from me.
I find that by having a different expression on my face than what I actually feel is in the realm of deception. Deception is the act of making someone believe what is not true (Martin & Nakayama, 2018, p. 278). When I am speaking to others and I do not make eye contact, I give them the sense that I do not mean what I am saying. Not only being deceptive, I am also being rude to the receiver.
Martin, J. N., & Nakayama, T. K. (2018). Intercultural Communication in Contexts (7th ed.). New York, NY: McGraw-Hill.