Opposites Attract

In high school, everyone falls into lust. I think one of the hardest things as a teenager is the ability to try and be in relationships. Every girl wants their first boyfriend, their first date, and their first kiss. Girls grow up learning about fairy tales as Cinderella explains to us. It’s not all glass slippers and carriages.

Paula Abdul tells us that “Opposites attract”. That is exactly what intercultural relationships are relationships formed between individuals from different cultures (Martin & Nakayama, pg. 397, 2018). In high school I think females want to be liked so much that they lose sight of who they really are. There is a lot of pressure when it comes to relationships that you may see individuals who very little in common, but are from different cultures. High school puts pressure on kids as it is with school work, they add pressure by the need to have dates to attend school dances.

One thing I think is interesting is that we may be in different cultures, but we may be with someone who is similar to us. I myself am in a intercultural relationship. I was raised in the Catholic Church, my boyfriend of eight years was raised in a Pennecostal Church. The unique thing putting religion aside, we are quite similar. We have a love for very similar things.

The similarity principle is a principle of relational attraction suggesting that individuals tend to be attracted to people they perceive to be similar to themselves (Martin & Nakayama, pg. 405, 2018). I have always heard a saying that girls tend to be with someone similar to their fathers. I absolutely think this is true. I myself am with someone who is quite similar to my dad. We may have grown up in different communities, very different actually. We have a lot in common whether it would be racing, sports, and even the same taste in foods. All of which I have in common with my dad. We have bonded and created routines with each other over our favorite things. My dad is my favorite person in the whole word, it just seems so fitting that I would indeed end up with someone who is similar to him.

I now make memories with my boyfriend of those same things. I love talking to my dad about my adventures in the motorhome. I get to experience so many cool places and things. I love being able to share similar interests with my boyfriend. I think that it keeps us connected in the end.



Martin, J. A., & Nakayama, T. K. (2018). Intercultural Communication in Contexts (7th ed.). New York, NY: McGraw-Hill.


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